People have a lot to say about lives they’ve never lived.
They sluff off the challenges others face or compare them to their own completely different life, all while bragging about their exceptional outcome.
It seems to make them feel superior.
This is on par with comparing apples to oranges, bragging about what wonderful apple pies the apples produced while stating the oranges could have done the same had the people producing the pies just changed their attitude toward the oranges. You know, pretend they weren’t oranges and voila — the pie made from oranges would magically look, smell and taste exactly like apple pies.
It doesn’t take much thought to realize oranges cannot produce apple pies. It is not rocket science, yet there are those who do the equivalent of this daily. Perhaps it makes them feel better about themselves while hoping most won’t even notice the uneven starting ground. I’m not sure, but it’s not flattering or impressive and does nothing to show their superiority. They try many tactics to convince others, like saying it’s all the way you look at your situation, you know if you’d just change the way you see the situation or the way you respond, it would all go away and all would be good.
Yup — let’s just ignore the fact they are oranges when we’re making apple pies and we’ll always have delicious apple pies.
If only it were that easy, right?
To those who find this describes them, here are a few ideas:
- Be thankful you are not enduring this particual complcation or challenge
- Upgrade your attitude!
- Be respectful
- Help where you can
- Be quiet when you can’t
Remember, the easiest pain to handle is someone else’s and until you’ve walked in that exact path, you have no idea what it’s like OR how you would respond. When you do anything else, you’re telling that orange to magically change into an apple.