Dealing with difficulties.
Difficult times happen in all areas of life, to all of us, at one time or another.
- Sometimes it’s health
- Sometimes it’s finances
- Sometimes it’s extended family
- Sometimes it’s life in general
Many times, it feels like we’re drowning, barely keeping our head above water. Sometimes, it even feels like we’re sinking below that water.
How do we get through this? How do we cope?
It’s not easy, that’s for sure.
At one point in my life, I was dealing with all of these, all at the same time. Most times, it felt like I had a boulder around my neck and had already sunk to the bottom.
- I had developed some sort of debilitating illness
- I visited Dr. after Specialist but nobody could identify why I was so ill.
- I was sleeping 15 – 20 hrs per day
- I had so much brain fog, I could not remember my phone number or address
- I was homeschooling three children
- I could not care for them very well (ie cooking meals, doing laundry, cleaning the house etc.)
- I had no support (We had just moved 3000 kms away and knew nobody)
- Finances were very limited (5 people living on less than $1,000.00 per month)
- Extended family were being extremely difficult causing more problems for us
It was a long, lonely journey. Each day came and went leaving us more confused than the day before. What would we do? How would we get through? .
Left with no other choice, we realized we’d have to find a way through. Many times one step forward and three back.
We needed a plan, one that would work for us. We needed to put something in place which would enable us to pull ourselves out of the quagmire we found ourselves in.
Baby steps, backward steps, no steps — we used them all, until we eventually learned these necessary components and details:
- defining level of importance and working on those issues which required immediate attention first, leaving the other things for another time (and, they were still there, waiting for us another day – imagine that!)
- not feeling guilty about things we didn’t get to
- using the most direct method of solving the issue
- being flexible and forgiving, if plan A, B, C …… Q ( you get the picture) didn’t work
- being able to make yet another plan
- not giving up (and I guess that brings us back to patience!)
In a future blog post, I will delve into the nuts and bolts of how we dealt with these issues but in the mean time, I’d love to hear from you. Have you encountered life-altering challenges? Please leave a comment below, I’d love to hear how you dealt with them. What worked, what didn’t.